Engagement Etiquette to Be Followed by the Groom’s Parents
Engagement is one of the most beautiful and auspicious occasions in the life of every couple. Unfortunately, this most amazing day in your life may go bad and stressful if things do not go as planned or if any conflict arose between the respective parties of the bride and the groom. So, it is important for everyone to learn about their responsibilities well, especially your parents. Hence, talk to your parents before announcing the engagement. In most cases, the parents of the bride and the groom will be super excited and end up stepping on others’ toes. So make them aware of the chief engagement etiquettes in order to avoid such situations.
Traditionally, the parents of the bride will have to look after almost all the pre-wedding festivities. However, things have changed now, and the parents of the groom are also given a significant role in the engagement arrangements. This is really important when the engagement and wedding expenses are shared by both families. Anyhow, the parents of the groom will not ideally have much of an idea on what to do and what not to do on their son’s engagement day. In order to help you out with this, below are some of the major responsibilities that the groom’s parents are expected to fulfill.
The engagement is a platform for the parents and relatives of the bride and the groom to meet and mingle. It is an engagement etiquette that the parents of the groom reach out and converse with the family of the bride. If you want, you can arrange a private meeting as well, so that they can get to know each other well. This is really crucial if the bride and the groom belong to different cultures or ethnicities. During the meeting, you can talk about your lifestyle, traditions, wedding customs, etc., in detail so that there is no room for any mistakes or confusions on your big day.
Host a Dinner
Unlike wedding parties, engagement parties will be usually conducted in a simple manner, and hence, the number of guests invited will be really less. Needless to say, only a few members from the family of the groom will probably get to see and talk to the bride on the engagement day. Therefore, it is the duty of the parents of the groom to host a dinner party so as to introduce their would-be daughter-in-law to other family members and friends. Any kind of dinner, be it in a restaurant, at home, or just a cocktail party at a club, will be appreciated in this case.
Help with the Engagement Party Planning
Almost every couple will be stressed about the engagement and wedding planning and no one can help them out like their parents. So, try to put forward some unique and affordable engagement ideas. You can also help them with the engagement decorations, food, vendors, etc., as well. It is to be noted that one of the most hectic tasks when it comes to engagement planning is the search for vendors including the florists, caterers, etc. You can take over this task in order to help the couple. However, you must not feel bad if they did not consider your engagement ideas. Note that most couples would have discussed their engagement plans months before and it will not be ideal to force your engagement ideas on them. Give them space to decide whether to consider your ideas and suggestions as such.
Manage your Guests
The guest list will be usually planned by the family of the bride. Usually, the groom will not have that much idea regarding the relatives to be invited. Hence, you can take over this task and help the family of the bride by managing the guest list from your side. You can keep the track of RSVPs from your side of guests as well. Furthermore, help the bride’s parents in assisting the engagement guests. It will be easier for you to manage the guests from your side rather than the bride’s parents. You can do things like helping your family members to find the right tables, offer drinks and starters for them, introduce the family of the bride to them, etc.
Host the Rehearsal Dinner
Traditionally, it is the responsibility of the parents of the groom to host a rehearsal dinner for the couple. Even though the rehearsal dinners are conducted on the previous day of the wedding, you must plan for the day at least six months in advance. You can plan for either a backyard BBQ rehearsal dinner or just a formal sit-down dinner as per your lifestyle and budget. The main highlight of the rehearsal dinner is the toasts. Usually, the host or the parents of the groom will kick things off. After that, the groom will toast for his bride as well as her family. Furthermore, you can give gifts to the family of the bride as a token of your love after rehearsal dinner.